Tree Shopping

This afternoon we walked over to the local hardware store to buy our tree. Ben had on his Christmas tree shopping hat. He is a true snow baby and loves the cold--he's been a grump all day, became immediately happy when we went outside in the 40-degree weather, then got mad again when we came back inside the warm house.









Also included below are a few cute photos from when Ickie was making him laugh this morning.

Birth Announcements

We have been meaning to send out birth announcements, truly we have, but by the time I got around to writing the copy, our good friend with the antique printing presses began a new job and hasn't had time to print them. At this point, we'll just send out Christmas cards. However, I thought you might be interested to see what the announcements would have featured if we had gotten around to mailing them. I may still print out a copy and frame it for the nursery, as I rather like my little poem for the boy.

Christmas Shopping

Fellow parents will recall how exciting it is to get your first baby portraits. We did all our Christmas shopping in one go yesterday when we went to get Ben's first professional photos at the mall. It was overwhelming and exhausting for him (and me!), but he was a great sport, providing us some beautiful smiles and a whole lot of vomit. When we got home, I obsessed over putting our copies in frames around the house. Chris enjoyed pointing out how nonsensical it is to stare at a photo when you have the real thing right in front of you, but there you go, I'm shamelessly ridiculous. Besides, I caught him doing it this morning.

Here's a little preview. We didn't actually order these particular photos. Family members: The ones you are receiving are even better. (Also, they don't have copyright watermark on our faces.) The only change I'll make in the future is to insist on sitting cross-legged as I normally would. The photographer insisted I contort myself unnaturally, so I look crazed and awkward in every photo. Fortunately, the two gentlemen look relaxed.

Thankful for Mr. Chunky

We weighed Ben yesterday morning and discovered he is now 18 pounds. Most of that is just bone and boy--he doesn't have much baby fat on him. He's about to bust out of his infant seat, and kicks his bassinet so hard I'm sure he'll soon reduce it to timber. He is really weighing down his bouncy seat as well. I'm sure the turkey and dressing I plan to gobble up this week will assist in sending Ben over the limit. On the other hand, I'm getting tons of exercise just picking him up. We'll move to the crib this week and upgrade the car seat soon as well (thanks to Ya Ya's Christmas gift).

Yesterday in Babies R Us I talked to a woman with her granddaughter, who is 8 months old and weighs 14 pounds. Ben positively dwarfed her. My dad says if he doesn't fit in their car seat when we visit for Christmas, he'll just let Ben drive the car.

(FYI, he doesn't have red hair, it's just a case of orange-tinted cradle cap.)

Acting Role

We were so excited on Sunday morning when a friend at church asked if Ben could play the role of Baby Jesus in the children's annual Christmas Pageant. Alas, we'll be flying south to see family two days prior to the pageant. But you can see from the following photos what a range of emotions our would-be thespian has.

Satisfied:Bewildered:
Pensive:
Fretful:
Weary but determined:

Tummy Time

Ben's neck muscles are developing well. He holds up his head for such a long time during tummy time that it makes me feel tired just watching him. When I hold him up to burp, he supports his head on his own and thrusts his legs down, nearly standing himself. The boy is tall and strong. Lately he has also made a habit of straining at the harness in his car seat when he's ready to get out. He's like Hercules in his chains. The other day in Kohl's a lady exclaimed: "My! Isn't he strong!"

Ignorance is Not Bliss

I'm sure I'll be feeling like this a lot over the next 20 years or more, but I am often overwhelmed by my feelings of ignorance as a parent. I don't think I'm doing a poor job, there's just so much I have to learn!

Up until this past week, Ben has had a lot of grouchy phases, and we were surprised that he couldn't seem to nap during the day unless I was walking or jogging with him. I could barely shower or feed myself when it was just me at home with Ben, and we could tell Ben was really frustrated.

Our friends KT and AT recommended the book On Becoming Baby Wise, which they used for our godson JT. It finally came into the library and we started implementing its feed-wake-nap schedule a few days ago. I'm still feeding him on demand, but the critical difference from what we were doing is putting Ben down for naps as soon as he shows signs of drowsiness and letting him settle down on his own. Sometimes he goes right to sleep and doesn't even fuss. Other times he'll cry for a minute or two and then fall to sleep. He's so much happier and eats more efficiently. It seems counter-intuitive that he sleeps better at night because he has more sleep during the day, but it has been the case.

I feel guilty that he's spent the last 2 months feeling exhausted because I wouldn't let him doze off on his own. Whenever I tried to rock him to sleep and hold him while he napped, he just couldn't calm down. After just a few days, I can better interpret his nap cues, put him down before he becomes overtired, and find him refreshed when he awakes. I don't expect this concept to work for every family, but I feel more confident as a mom with a plan (albeit a flexible one), and Ben acts reassured as his body gets into a rhythm and he can anticipate what's coming next.